We don't normally focus on this day. Usually we share a quick moment of reflection and then move on to the normal events of the day. However, this year feels like it is more significant. We have hit a milestone - 50 years. That even
sounds significant when I say it out loud. FIFTY YEARS.
50 years ago today Marvin was injured in an explosion in Vietnam. (I have written previously about Marvin's story in some detail on another post. You can go and read it
at this link.)
What transpired on that day changed his entire life. The young man who had dreamed of running a big cow/calf operation on his family farm would instead spend the next two years of his life recovering from life altering wounds sustained during a search and destroy mission in the jungles of Vietnam.
Life can change in an instant. And how we respond to those changes shapes our entire lives. I asked Marvin this morning what he would tell our 'boys' - what he would look them in the eye and want to make certain they know. He was hesitant to tell me anything. He isn't one to dwell on what he has gone through. But, for the boys, he finally shared this...
"50 years ago today seems like a long time but at the same time it seems like only yesterday. Looking back it seems hard to believe it was 50 years ago. A 20 year old being thrown into war in a combat situation - it's a bad thing and you don't wish anybody to be in that situation. The Vietnam War changed so many people's lives, and at such a young age. I wouldn't want my boys to have to go through that. I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones that I made it through. My injuries - loss of sight and being wounded - changed my plans. But I was so fortunate. I had a great supporting and loving family when it happened. I had friends throughout my life.
I would want the boys to know that you can always lean on God for strength. Have optimistic determination to try to make the best of a situation. In my situation, I didn't think I had an alternative. Or, I should say I didn't like the alternative to sit down and give up and go the other way. I don't want to sound like I had something the other guys that didn't make it didn't have. It wasn't that way. I don't know. It is just the way I was built, I guess. I just always thought that I never wanted to quit. I always wanted to keep moving; keep trying to press forward.
Never give up. Never let yourselves get down on yourself. Seek help from others and accept help from others. Always believe that you can make it. Accept the fact that it isn't going to be easy and you are going to have some real tough times. But if you keep plugging away, eventually it gets better. Your faith is the key. It would be awfully hard to have this kind of outlook if you didn't have faith in God.
I've always had something in me that when I got down and depressed or things got bad, I always had a bottom line. When I got to that line I knew I had to stop and change. That I needed a different outlook or approach or action. When I felt like sitting down and doing nothing, which happened a whole lot (and still does, actually), something just wouldn't let me sit for very long. I guess what it is - because of my belief and faith in God I have never gotten to the hopeless feeling. Things have never gotten so bad that it was hopeless. I have always looked for and grabbed ahold of something that was positive. Or gave me a chance of surviving - of being better. When I was wounded, I didn't die! That was a plus! So I was thankful I didn't die. When I had all my surgeries, I came through them. So that was a little bit more. I lost all my sight but then started seeing a little light. So that helped. It's like that. You try to make those opportunities all through your life. You grasp hold of the good things. You watch for the blessings. I have never been in a situation when I had a hopeless feeling. Coming up in a home with a strong Christian faith and belief in God, you always have that hope... that hope in Christ. I am so thankful for that hope. It has sustained me."
Marvin is a quiet man. He doesn't put these things into words very often. But he lives his life every day as an example to any who will take time to notice - to really see. As my Mama said when Marvin and I got married - Marvin exemplifies
1 Corinthians 13:4-7. He knows this world is not his home. He has more ups than downs. His glass is always more full than empty. He has an optimistic outlook on life that he has cultivated and nurtured. He shares it with others. It has certainly rubbed off on me.
Today we can think back to the events of 50 years ago and count our blessings. I am so very thankful for Marvin.
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